There is nothing like having a first child and seeing that child have their own first born. That is what happened on September 17, 2009. My daughter had her first born. No she didn't give birth but that doesn't matter. When I saw them hand that precious little boy in her arms she had the same look on her face that any first time mommies has. She cried with joy, looked him all over, touched him and just stared at this little bundle. Then I watched my son in law hold him and look at him. The feelings that I had were the same feelings that would be there if she had given birth to him. Brandon was holding little Matthew and she was leaning over touching his hand and just staring at him. She made a comment that now she knows why parents stare at their new baby. There was an instant bond between them and Matthew was so content in Brandi's arms. I felt the joy of holding my first born grandson also. It was the most awesome experience that I have ever felt.
Now I have two grandsons that are from a son that was adopted, and I love them as they were my own. But having your first born child especially a daughter have theirs is something that cannot be described. I know that God placed this child with Brandi and Brandon and that we will all be very blessed. I look forward to seeing all the first that Brandi and Brandon will experience as first time parents.
Joshua Matthew Lee Fought could not have gotten better parents then Brandi and Brandon. He will be loved, cherished and of course spoiled by his Nana and NanaNana as if she gave birth. There is no difference. One child is chosen for you and the other you choose in a way. God is still in control over both. God is good, great and awesome.
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Friday night is in the air. Football, band, crowds, cheerleaders. I took my three grandsons to the homecoming game last week. It was raining off and on and the two year old did not like the rain. He was also not so sure of the crowds and noise. He had a panicked look on his face and was hanging on to me for dear life. Was not expecting that reaction from the little boy who loves to play with the football. Finally the face softened and he became more relaxed and was okay with me putting him down. He began to cheer and dance when the band played. He was soooo cute doing this. But just when I thought he was finally enjoying himself where comes Majic the mascot. Majic went one way and little Mr. J took off the other way. I didn't know a two year old could move so fast. Got him over that one and here comes Majic again and there goes Mr. J. Then he began to enjoy the game and dance and yell Go Red. All was well....until it started raining. Mr. J. does not like the rain falling on him. He grabbed hold of me the great protector and hung on. We left before the game was over but not by much. All in all was a great night.
Doctors are only human too. We should never forget that. They make mistakes and forget that sometimes a person just needs to be cared for reguardless as to what the status is. There was a older person who came into a emergency room who had a DNR and was bleeding everywhere. Now the nurse who took care of this person was doing everything she could to get the doctor to help this person. He ordered blood to be typed and crossed instead of Oneg which is universal donor and one unit of FFP (which is a platelets to help stop some of the bleeding). The order was put into as a STAT order. Since the patient was a DNR the doc would not listen to the nurse. The lab was called numerous times for the STAT order and was working on it. The person was sent to ICU, the blood never made it and the person died. Now would it have changed anything if the blood had gotten to this person sooner? No one knows. The nurse went above and beyond and should not have felt that she didn't. We have to remember that everyone has the right to die with dignity and with everything done that the person wants done. A DNR doesn't give the right for anyone to disreguard their life as unimportant. To my friend who take care of this person.....you did everything right.....you took care of this person and gave him respect and dignity.....you are a good nurse.
When is it that we become to old to be treated with dignity and respect? I work in a trauma center and day after day I see people from nursing homes coming in, in the most horrible conditions. People who work in nursing homes understands what kind of people are there and the job they are to do. So why is it that they are left and not giving anything to drink or turned or even simply giving a bath after they become incontient? I am amazed that the ones caring for these little people still have jobs. Have they forgotten that they themselves are nurses and the people they care for are someones, mom,dad,sister, brother, grandmother, and grandfather. We should all stop and think how we would want someone treating someone we care about. Just because a person gets older and unable to do some or all of things they used to doesn't give anyone the right to throw them away. We are all people and deserve respect at any age.